Nurturing the Seed of Infinite Potentialities in Every Child

Self-Care or Selfish?

Youth Reflections on Embracing Self-Care

and Inner Strengths

In a world filled with high demands and deadlines for young people, it's crucial to pause and reflect on the importance of self-care. We spoke to youth to learn more about their unique approaches to self-care and how they deal with difficulties.

I'm worthy

of love and

 happiness.

By Maya Awad

elf-care is a term that's been thrown around a lot lately. Some see it as a trendy buzzword, while others view it as an essential component of mental well-being. Despite the mixed opinions, research has made one thing clear: self-care isn't selfish, it's a necessity (Scott, 2023). Self-care isn't just about bubble baths and face masks. It's about showing yourself the same kindness you'd show a friend in need (Malti, 2020). It’s a journey of self-compassion and prioritizing your well-being.

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he teen years are often filled with emotional highs and lows, so self-care and self-compassion can be very important for this age group. Let's dive into the world of self-care through the eyes of two teens exploring their self-care routines, positive self-talk, and recognizing their strengths.

 

 

Self-care

 

Self-care is taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical health and mental health. Katelyn, 13-years-old, believes self-care is about “taking time for yourself, doing things you like, and making you happy.” She loves taking time to draw or watch her favourite movies or TV shows. Seventeen-year-old Andy sees self-care as doing simple things that are good for his future, like brushing his teeth, making sure to eat breakfast, and reading. He says, “It's crucial to make self-care a priority because it affects everything from health to relationships.”

 

When I asked about whether they ever felt guilty taking some time for themselves, Katelyn said that she does when she wants to relax but has lots of homework or tests coming up but is satisfied with her self-care routine overall. Meanwhile, Andy expressed feeling badly sometimes when treating himself to a fancy meal from a financial aspect. To make up for it, he will work extra hours at his part-time job. He is interested in starting journaling and stretching exercises to boost his mental and physical health.

 

 

Positive self-talk

 

Positive self-talk is an inner voice that makes you feel good about yourself and everything going on in your life. When asked whether they practice positive self-talk, especially during challenging times, Katelyn shared that while she doesn’t have specific phrases or affirmations, she may cheer herself up when stressed with positive thoughts like, “Your hair looks great today!” or “You’re going to see your friends today.” Andy looks at the bigger picture and imagines how his choices will shape his future. Helpful phrases Andy tells himself are: “Focus on the next step, not the whole staircase” and “You’re only hurting yourself by staying negative.”

 

 

Personal strengths

 

Personal strengths are the skills and actions that you can do well. Katelyn feels confident speaking in public and stays cool under pressure and told me that her friends recognize that she's “friendly and confident.” Andy’s good with numbers, hands-on tasks, and loves helping people and learning new things. He reported that his co-workers find him “very helpful and curious about things.”

 

 Finally, I asked whether there was anything else they thought parents and teachers should know about young people and this topic. One observation shared was that students often forget to take breaks due to school and social pressure, so adults and teachers should encourage downtime. It's important for both teens and adults to recognize the power of self-care and advocate for their well-being unapologetically. Let's continue to spark conversations about self-care everywhere, from dinner tables to classrooms, fostering a culture of support and understanding.

 

And remember, self-care isn't selfish!

 

 

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Self-care isn't one-size-fits-all. Here are some tips to make it your own:

 

Get moving! Dance to your favorite playlist, take a stroll through your neighborhood, or sign up for a beginner's yoga class.

 

Fuel your body with nourishing foods like a smoothie bursting with greens and berries. Keep a reusable water bottle with you throughout the day and infuse it with refreshing fruits like lemon or cucumber for extra flavour.

 

Snuggle up with your pillow and create a cozy bedtime routine with dim lighting and a calming cup of herbal tea. Unwind with a good book or soothing music to help you drift off to sleep

peacefully.

 

Take a breather with meditation or simple breathing exercises. Find a quiet space to sit and focus on your breath or try a guided meditation app to help calm your mind.

 

Pour your thoughts onto paper. Use your journal as a safe  space to express your thoughts, feelings, and experiences without  judgment. Write about your day or things you're grateful for.

 

Discover your strengths. Reflect on the best compliments you've ever received or moments where you felt proud of yourself.

Recognize your unique talents and qualities, whether it's your kindness, creativity, or ability to make others laugh.

 

Nature's calling! Spend some quality time outdoors soaking  up the sunshine. Have a picnic in the park with friends or sit outside and listen to nature.

 

Stay connected. Plan a movie night with your friends, organize  a game night with your family, or schedule video calls with  loved ones who live far away.

 

Speak kindly to yourself with positive affirmations:

•  I've got this!
•  I believe in myself.
•  I'm worthy of love and happiness.
•  Every challenge is an opportunity for growth.
•  I am proud of the progress I've made.
•  I'm grateful for the good stuff in my life.